Multi-tasking Momma: Am I an Octopus or what?!

My topic for this week: Multi-tasking Momma: Am I an Octopus or what?!

Ok, THANKS to everyone for being patient with my tardiness! Seriously the week ambushed me big time!! Before I knew it, I had a busy, BUSY week!!!!

Honestly, I don’t know how most parents do it!  My friend once told me, and I quote “Constance, being a working Mom is hard. Somedays I feel like a bad doctor but a good mom, other days, a good doctor but a bad mom. Other days, I feel bad at both!” At the time, I didn’t really understand what she meant but NOW I do!  (Ok, so I am not a Doctor, but u get my point!)

Being an actress, only complicates things because my work, doesn’t always seem like work but really it IS!!!  AND my hours are totally intense and crazy!!

For example, I posted a photo of me on a red carpet as a place holder when my blog was late right?  Well, that was when I went to support one of my favorite causes, PETA for their 30th anniversary….
Seems like it could be fun right?.. And it was, mostly, but it was STILL work…
(Yes! That is Kellan Lutz behind us checkin me out! Why? I HAVE NO IDEA!)

Let me explain, to go to something like that, It took about 9 hours! (Crazy right!?) Let me explain, In that time I am rehearsing, prepping, getting ready, driving, doing interviews, photos, participating in the program, then MORE photos and then getting back home.  NOTE* I am not complaining just merely filling ya in……
My point is:
That 9 hours for work, is 9 hours that cuts into my Mommy Time!
9 hours that my Lil Miss Luna Marie, does not get to see me nor I her…. :/

Then the next day, I had  to shoot a pilot (sorry confidential, will let ya know when I can) but once again,, it took like 14 hours of the day!!!!!! For 2 straight days….
So, on Day 1, when I realised that I would not be able to see my lil Luna Marie at all because I left before she awoke and I wasn’t going home til after she was down for the night,, yep, I cried…

This whole Mom thing is complex. Women who have to go back to work after 3 months after having the baby- I feel for you!!! Women who have no help, I feel for you too! I feel for ALL of us. In general I feel Moms bust their butts! Dad’s too!!

As for me, my schedule, is so unpredictable, last minute and just plain intense when I least expect it! (But that is show biz! I knew it when I joined!!)

When I am around Luna Marie a lot, my thoughts are “Man! A little break would be nice!” And then when I am not around her I think “Man! I miss her SO much!”
It is like I am psychotic. Hey? Maybe I am??? :/
What is up with that?!!!!
Can somebody fill me in!?

Anyhoo,,,
My next day of shooting, I got to go in later, so I DID get to see Luna Marie!!!
For a whole hour!!!!
I was SO happy to see her!! And she me, she must have said “Mama” like 40 times in that hour!!
I will admit- I LOVED IT!

In that hour, so I could be with her,, she sat on my lap while I ,,, 1) chatted/played/read her a book, 2) got my hair done, 3) ate breakfast 4) planned Luna Marie’s menu for the day. 5) went over the contents of the fridge and made a grocery list to make sure she had enough food.. 6) sent e-mails, 7) translated between Kent and the Nanny to make sure every one was on the same page for the schedule that day and last but not least 7) I actually invited Luna Marie to come into the bathroom with me!- Instead of my usual fighting her off- so we could continue our chat!….why fight her right?  When we’re adults, all us women go together anyway!!!

Now, it seemed pretty normal to me. Just part of a day in my life til the Make- Up artist said “Talk about Multi tasking!”….. It took me a moment to understand what she was saying,,,, then I got it-SHE doesn’t have kids!

This reminds me of my pre-baby moments when I would see mothers- like Octopi- at the grocery store-on the phone, watching one kid with one eye, stopping another from injesting a pack of batteries, unloading a grocery cart, and soothing a crying baby in the cart, while on the phone, and still chatting to the cashier! I used to think “Holy C*ap! How does she do it??!”
Now, I know.
It is just a day in the life of a Mom or Dad who loves their kids!

So, you to you my fellow Octopi, I Salute you!!!
Keep up the good work! And don’t pass out!
:)
CM

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13 Responses to Multi-tasking Momma: Am I an Octopus or what?!

  1. Jennifer says:

    u truly are a Phenomenal women and lets me say i do the same thing but i not only have one kid but i have 6. ages ranging:13,12,10,9,3,1 and a husband and i work 45+ hours a week. so i can definetly relate to you all the way. Constance u are doing a wonderful job as a mother and by the look in your baby girls face i can tell she loves the time she has with you! Keep up the good work momma, Te amo. god bless!! :)

  2. Brandon says:

    I just read your blog,and I don’t think you’re crazy for missing Luna. If I had kids, and I was busy alot, and never had time for them I would think the same way. I’m proud of ya to find time to be with her being on your crazy schedule, and all. Take care, and can’t wait to hear from ya soon.

    -Brandon

  3. Katie says:

    Hi Constance,
    My daughter is 8 months old and I can totally relate. I work full time and am going many different directions all at once. Go Moms!
    Love your blog,
    Katie

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  5. Sasha says:

    just wanted to say, i dont have kids but my fiance’ and i would love a little one soon. I LOVE your blogs, they make me laugh and think about how crazy it would be to be a mommy. but it seems like a type of craziness that results from having a beautiful child and who wouldnt want that? BTW luna is GORGEOUS!!!!

  6. Natalie says:

    Sooo true! Sometimes you want a break and everyone tells you how healthy it is…then you finally do break away and all you can do is talk about them, think about them and miss them! Terrible cycle, hahaha I think that your doing a great job and Luna will be greatly enriched in her life for it!

  7. Tee says:

    Luna Marie is so adorable! No, it’s not crazy to want a break when you’re with her and to miss her like crazy when you’re not! That makes you perfectly normal. I will say this though… you don’t have to be a Mommy to feel that way. I don’t have children but I’m the “second mommy” to my five young nieces and I feel the same way even though they didn’t come from my womb!

  8. maddie says:

    Hi Constance,
    I’m so glad that you’re keeping up with your blog, and that I’m able to read about your adventures with Lil’ Luna. I adored your blog on People, and so happy to find you here. Luna is a cutie – and might I add, in the 4th picture, Baby Girl is fully rocking that tutu :D
    I have total respect for you! How do you work a 12-14 hour day? How? and the fact that you still find time for your family is amazing (and have the energy to run around after a toddler!).
    I sometimes find working an 8 hour day tiring.. but then i work as a Preschool teacher (with kids Luna’s age and younger)…so maybe that has something to do with it, haha.

    Looking forward to your next entry!

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  10. Lavita says:

    My daughter is 21mos old and I work 50-60 hours a week so I COMPLETELY understand! Your multitasking story sounds a lot like my weekday mornings (well, with the exception of the hairstylist). And if you are crazy for missing Luna, I am certifiable! Yesterday, I fussed and complained that I was exhausted and needed a break from my daughter. TODAY, I sped home (literally) just to see her before she went to sleep…because I also cry when I don’t see my baby for the day :)

  11. corevoice says:

    I also understand all-too-well. I work two jobs doing about 60hrs a week total… plus I homeschool our 6 year old daughter and I sing in a band too. I’m a guy though, so multi-tasking is kind of a pipe-dream… lol… Multi-tasking for me is pushed to it’s limits when walking, while talking/breathing and chewing gum… focus… I need focus

  12. Cherita says:

    I so understand where you are coming from. I am a teacher, and I am lucky in that I get summer’s off to spend with my 2 year old. However by mid-summer, I was so ready for a break. Now that I am back in school, I miss being at home with my baby. I love reading your blog. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us!

  13. Jodie says:

    Hi Constance, I love reading your blogs because I so relate to you. I however have 3 boys, ages 11, 8, and 3. I homeschool them and I also work from home full-time (Medical Transcriptionist). My work schedule is flexible, but I constantly feel like I’m working and don’t always have one-on-one time with my boys. We get school work done in the mornings, I work a little in the afternoon, take the boys outside to play for a couple hours in the afternoon, fix dinner, clean up dinner, and then sit down and work again in the evening. After working in the evening we gets bath time done and then it’s time for bed. I feel like the energizer bunny most days and lots of times scatter brained. If I don’t write it on the calendar then I will surely forget. Thank goodness for my husband though as he helps with household chores and keeps the boys busy when I work. It’s a busy world these days and sometimes I wish I could slow down. When my kids are gone I miss them and don’t know what to do, but there are lots of times where I do wish I had a break. You’re daughter looks so happy and you’re doing an awesome job with her. Keep up the great work!! – Jodie :)